It’s no secret that texting an ex-boyfriend after the breakup can be very difficult. But when done the right way, texting your ex can be the stepping stone you need to get him back for good. Here are some dos and don’ts to get started.
1. DO NOT send your ex boyfriend useless text messages.
“Hello there.”
“What’s the matter?”
These are the types of messages you can send to break the ice when trying to flirt with someone via text message. However, these are not the text messages that will make your ex respond to you the way you would like them to.
2. DO NOT send bitter text messages to your ex boyfriend.
Let go of all your complaints after the breakup and don’t make your ex feel like they still have an obligation to you. He may have made a few mistakes throughout the relationship, but you owe it to yourself to release the bitterness you feel by forgiving him and forgiving yourself.
3. Keep texting your ex positive.
Fighting and fighting while texting an ex-boyfriend will make him want to stay as far away from you as possible. Negative text messages from you accomplish the same thing.
4. DO NOT send needy text messages to your ex boyfriend.
Save yourself some dignity and self-respect.
5. Have a goal in mind for every message you send.
Before sending a text message to an ex boyfriend, you need to know how you want him to respond. Whether your goal is to make him smile, make him laugh, or reminisce about the good times, you must have a goal in mind. If your messages are not aligned with a specific goal, do not text him.
6. DON’T make it obvious to your ex that you want him back.
When texting an ex boyfriend for the first time after the breakup, the idea is to let him know that you are still thinking about him. However, you should avoid making him feel like you want him back. What you need to do is give the impression of being the one who stayed together after the breakup, even if you are still dying inside.
A good example of messages like this would be: “I saw an adorable dog today and it made me smile because it reminded me of that dog we saw at the shelter. I hope you’re okay.” Try it!